Bitch & Aggressive: How Weak Men Define Strong Women

Bitch & Aggressive: How Weak Men Define Strong Women
Bitch and aggressive are generally how weak men or jealous people define strong women. This was the advice given to me from a beautiful young woman that I am proud to have in my life. If those are the adjectives you prefer to describe powerful, confident women, then you my friend have landed on this week’s Hair Police from Ask the Pro Stylist.

Happy Monday gorgeous, and welcome to Ask the Pro Stylist’s Hair Police. This week I have called out anyone who feels the word bitch is ok to define a woman. I am offended by the term and tired of people who think it a useful and necessary adjective.

I have a family member that loves to label me a bitch. Mind you, I have seen this person once in the last 5 years, and interact solely on social media. This person and his wife know nothing about me, yet during our last interaction, while I disciplined one of my sons, he felt the need to comment, “you are such a bitch.” It took every ounce of self-control not to jump up and verbally rip him a new asshole.

I was able to sweep it under the rug and forget about it, although it tore at my self-worth for about 5 minutes, until recently. Last week I saw a logline for a reality show I appeared on, which described me as “aggressive.” I was peeved by the connotation because that is not how we here at the Haggerty house perceived my behavior while we filmed.

My son’s intelligent, beautiful girlfriend rationalized the verbiage, excusing the reference as one created to promote a TV show. She then explained how bitch and aggressive are thrown around to describe a dominant woman by those less confident, who lack strength and self-esteem to deal with a powerful female.

So instead of the Hair Police pointing out a hair, beauty and nails faux pas this week, I draw attention to those who try to diminish a strong women’s worth and inner beauty with a negative label. But if that’s all you got, then I will embrace the Bitch in me, and reiterate the meme pictured above: happy styling, wink, wink!

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